Showing posts with label BLOGGING. Show all posts
Showing posts with label BLOGGING. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

The Chatting Segment of My Blog


I would like to begin this post by thanking all of you who were so supportive and so kind when I took my recent blog break.  Some of your comments brought tears to my eyes, and all of your comments made me feel so much love and encouragement. When I took that break, I wasn’t sure if I would return to blogging.  

In analyzing why I considered abandoning my blog, I realized that, for me to enjoy my blog, I have to take back ownership of it.  I understand that I am the one who put the pressures on myself, and I have to admit to myself (and to you) that if I continue blogging the way I was blogging, I will again put those pressures on myself.  For me, right now, if I want to continue blogging, I have to change the way I've been doing it. 

Being a slow learner, it took me a long time to realize that weekly blog events are just not for me. I will not be hosting a weekly meme/event/party, and  I don’t plan to link to other weekly events.  I know it is not rational to feel pressured into joining other blogger’s events, but I am not always a rational person (that probably does not come as a surprise to most of you!)  If a blogger linked to my Favorite Things event, and they hosted an event, I felt that I really wanted to support their weekly event by posting something appropriate to allow me to link to their event.  If I linked to an event one week, I felt that I needed to try to link to that event every week.  I struggled to come up with posts that would be appropriate for all of those different events, and I began to regard blogging as a chore instead of something fun.  I also felt guilty, because I know that blog etiquette requires that, when I link to a meme, I should attempt to visit all (or at least some) of the other links, and I was never able to find the time to do much of that.

I so appreciate all of you who linked to “A Few Of My Favorite Things”, and I want to thank all of you who so graciously host weekly memes. I do feel like I am cutting myself off from a lot of you wonderful bloggers and a lot of blog visitors.  Although that is not something I want to do, it is something I know I have to do.  If I want to blog, I don’t feel I have a choice.

Having said all of that, I am reminded of my Mother’s often-repeated advice ~ “Nevah say nevah, because if you do, you’ll eventually have to eat the word “nevah””.  In spite of her advice, I have, over the years, had to eat that word several times.  So, I’m not going to say that I will “nevah” again link to or host a weekly event.  I’m just going to say that I don’t think I’m going to take on that responsibility again.

I do plan to host my yearly Valentine party, and if I can come up with something appropriate, I will link to other blogger’s special events.  I will also continue to occasionally post favorite pictures that I steal borrow from other blogs.  They just won’t be part of a weekly event.  For me, blogging is not fun if I am putting pressure on myself to join all of the memes.  I know, I know, I don’t HAVE to post about anything.  I’m tellin’ ya, I need psychiatric help.

I know that this decision will lead to my having fewer visitors and fewer comments, and   I do love the connections I feel when I read your comments.  Howevah, when I began blogging, I didn’t expect any comments, so, no matter how few, I am still thrilled when I get any comments on a post.  I’m going to try to go back to the roots of my blog, and just blog when I want to blog and blog about what is going on in my life at that moment.  I say that with full awareness that not much goes on in my life that would be of interest to anyone else, and with the awareness that my blog will probably not gain new visitors and will lose some visitors.  My posts may be more sporadic than they used to be, because I will only be posting when I want to post.  I know that, at least for now, this is the only way I can continue to blog, and I do want to continue.  I hope you’ll understand and continue to stop by for visits.

All chat (especially when it’s me doing the chatting) and no pictures makes a post dull, so I’m sharing some of the fabulous inspiration I’ve recently seen in Blogville.  (Click on picture to be transported to these inspiring blogs.)GIRL IN PINK



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Alycia, Amanda and Amy, please feel free to take the “One of Laurie’s Favorites” button to post on your blog.  Also, please feel free to let me know if you do not want your photo on my blog, and I will quickly remove it.  Thanks to all of you for all of the inspiration you share.  (I don’t know how I ended up being inspired by three bloggers, whose names begin with “A”!  I do know that I will NOT be going through the alphabet to find inspiration photos ~ that would be another responsibility I definitely couldn’t handle!)


Thank you to my visitors.  I hope that you will visit me in the future, in spite of my decision to give up weekly events.  laurie

Friday, May 1, 2009


Across Blogville today, there have been posts entitled "Why Do You Blog". By reading these posts, I learned that this event is being sponsored by Cupids Charm. I haven't been to her beautiful blog before, but I just stopped by, and I am definitely going back to look some more! I didn't get there in time to post for the party, but I thought maybe if I attempted a post about this subject, I might discover the answer to the question. If you want to read other posts on this subject, go to Cupids Charm.
So, why DO I blog? That is a question I ask myself every day, and I still don't know the answer. I do know that I'd like to have a psychiatrist join our little corner of Blogville. As I've said before, they could have a field day with me!

A year ago, if someone had described to me a person who works 8 hours a day, and comes home and sits in front of their computer to post to a blog and/or visit other blogs, I would probably have said something like: "I think they are having an online affair", or..... "They need to get a life!" I KNOW I'm not having an online affair (unless my attraction to other bloggers' great ideas could be considered an affair). So, that would just leave option number 2... I need to get a life!

I had been visiting a few blogs on a regular basis, when I decided one day that I would just play around with the computer and see if I could set up a blog. (Growing up, I thought that I would be a famous writer some day, so this blog could be an outlet for the frustrated writer in me!) It was kind of a thrill when I saw those words "Your Blog Post Published Successfully" I know, my story isn't much different from any other blogger's story. I had NO intention of becoming a REAL BLOGGER! After all, I don't know enough about anything to blog on a regular basis!

I let it slip in an email to one of my RMS cyber friends that setting up a blog wasn't as easy for me as I had thought it was going to be. (Psychiatrist Lucy, is that a Freudian slip?) That is how I got my first blog visitors. My cyber friends were so kind in their comments on my blog (I only have very polite cyber friends), and that made my little blog kind of fun.

I should be embarrassed to tell ya'll this, but I think you've already figured out how computer challenged I am. I didn't know that when I used my Blogger I.D. to leave a comment on another blog, people could click on my name and go to my blog!! I know, you've never known anybody with a blog who is as much of a computer dummy as me! All of a sudden, these polite bloggers, who had received comments from me on their blogs, started showing up at my blog! The first few times it happened, I almost got lock jaw! My mouth flew open, and I sat in front of my computer, talking loudly to my computer..."how did they find me?"; and "how did they know I had a blog?" Since my computer didn't answer me, I emailed a cyber friend, and that's how I learned that I was clickable in the comment section of other blogs!

Okay, now my blog had been visited by my RMS friends and a few bloggers, and they had read my one and only post. Everyone was so kind, and left such nice comments, I decided I'd do another post -- just to prove that if they thought the first post was interesting, it was a fluke, and I'd never do another interesting post (as I said, I really have nothing interesting to share-as is evidenced by this post!) This time, when I saw those words, "Your Blog Post Published Successfully", my heart was pounding, because I knew others were going to read it! (My heart still pounds each time I see those words!) By the time I got to my third post and joined Tablescape Tuesday (yep! it was on Tuesday back then), I was hooked.I had "met" so many wonderful people, and I was enjoying being a part of Blogville so much, that I just kept on posting (always with the thought in the back of mind that blogging was a temporary part of my life). I'm like an alcoholic or a smoker--every post I do, I say..."okay Laurie, this is the last post". I always think that this post will be the one that gets kind comments from my really good cyber friends (simply because they are too polite to not do that), and if anyone else visits my blog, they'll either exit quickly, or they'll leave a comment telling me that I have serious issues, and they will not be back. That might convince me to leave Blogville! (Do you think this long, wordy post is my attempt to make that happen?)

I know you're hungry. Why do you think I'm spending all of this time looking at Foodie Friday posts? You're just going to have to be patient, and be grateful that I am willing to stay on this computer looking!

I, like all of you, am just amazed at our kind and loving corner of Blogville. If I quit blogging, I know I would feel a great loss.

I've even started seeing you out in public! I see photos of most of you almost every day, and I feel like you've become such good friends. When I have seen someone in the grocery store who reminds me of one of you, I have come very close to walking up to a complete stranger and giving them a hug!!

Now that I'm seeing you in the grocery store, I'm convinced I need to get a real life! But right now, I'm just having way too much fun in Blogville to get a real life. So the conclusion I have reached is that it is all YOUR fault!

Whew! That's a relief! It's not my fault, it's your fault!
Thanks for putting up with this wordy post! I promise, I've used up all of my words (at least for awhile!), so it may be safe to come back and visit my blog again some time! laurie