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Monday, March 16, 2009

I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO BEGIN


This morning, I read an article in the newspaper entitled "Death Often Leaves Online Lives in Limbo". Did ya'll read that article? The article pointed out that when people die, often the family does not know about their internet "friends", or the family does not know the passwords to get into the places on the internet where their family member had made friends. One man was in the middle of an on-going, on-line game, and suddenly he wasn't there anymore. His on-line buddies thought they had made him angry. As I was reading it, I kept thinking that this could happen to me, and maybe it has happened to some of you. I could be in limbo, wondering what ever happened to someone whom I had considered a friend. We have all "talked" in blog postings about how many friends we have made in Blogland. As I read the article, I kept thinking "maybe I should do a post about this; maybe there are some bloggers whose families would not know that their cyber friends should be contacted in the event of a sudden hospitalization, an accident, or their death". It's not something we like thinking about, but we all know it is going to happen. Does your family know how to contact your blog readers, or your Facebook Friends, or your email contacts if something happens to you? It doesn't have to be because of death. If you are suddenly hospitalized for some reason, would your family let me know, so that I could pray for you.


I THINK my children would know they should contact Blogland. After all, they constantly whisper about me being on the computer almost every time they come in my house (I think they are planning an intervention), and I don't think they'd have any problem getting onto my blog to post a message for other Blogland citizens. After reading the article, I decided that I will talk to them to make sure that they could and would do that. My friend, Susie, knows how to post a comment on my blog, so I have asked her to be the backup in case my children don't remember to let you know. I just don't want anybody to be left in limbo wondering what ever happened to that blogger -- what was her name -- the bargain hunter?


I had decided that I did not need to post about this, because my blog readers are all much more computer savvy than me. Most of them have been at this blogging a lot longer than me, and they would have the good sense to know there should be a plan in place in the event of their sudden illness, accident, or death.


Now, you tell me, is this a coincidence, or was God telling me to do a post about this?


This afternoon, I received an email from the email address of a former blogging buddy of mine. When I saw her email address, I was so excited, because I had not heard from her in months. Do any of you remember Nanette at A Tale of Magical Memories? She always left such lovely comments on blogs. Her blog disappeared in January. Her husband had been very ill (he had an infection in his brain), and had been in and out of the hospital a lot. I knew that he had come home from the hospital right before Christmas, so I assumed that he had become ill again. Her last post was a post of appreciation for all who had helped her through the tough times she had while he was hospitalized. After that post, when I clicked on her blog name, a message from Blogger said this site is not available, but this blog title is available. I tried a number of times to contact her through Blogger, but never received a response. I asked a few other bloggers if they knew anything about what happened to her, but nobody did. I left her blog on my Blog list (it's still there), and I added her name to my prayer list (it's still there). It took a couple of months for me to remember that she had once left her email address in a comment on my blog (you know I'm not the fastest car on the street). The beginning of this month, I went back and searched my comments on previous posts and found her email addy. I was very concerned that her husband might have died, and that she was grieving, and I wanted to offer my sympathy. Today, almost 2 weeks after I sent that email to her, I received an email from her daughter. Nanette died of heart problems in January, and her family did not know her passwords for her emails or her blogs. I was so shocked and completely heart broken to read her daughter's message. It had never occurred to me that Nanette could be gone. I kept thinking that, when she was ready, she would respond to my email. After a couple of emails back and forth between me and Nanette's daughter, I learned that Nanette had not previously had heart problems, and that her death was unexpected for her family too. I feel such a loss, and I know some of you who visited her blog also feel that loss. She was such a kind and loving person, and I'm going to miss her so much.


After receiving this email on the same day that I read the article in the newspaper, I felt that I had to post about this problem, and I am asking each of you to please tell someone what to do about your Internet connections in the event of a sudden hospitalization, accident, or your death. The internet may be an impersonal place to some, but I feel very close to our community of bloggers. Please don't leave us in limbo, wondering what happened to you.


I'm sorry to post such a "downer", but I just felt I needed to do it. Thanks for reading this, and thank you, in advance, for talking to someone about letting your friends know if something happens to you.


THIS POST IS DEDICTATED TO THE MEMORY OF NANETTE, A LOVELY BLOGGER AT A TALE OF MAGICAL MEMORIES. Nanette, you left me with some magical memories. I'll miss you! laurie

81 comments:

marty39 said...

Oh Laurie, this is such an appropriate post. I don't think I ever thought about telling someone to let my friends know. I also feel such a friendship with many people here in blogland and when one doesn't have a post for a while I always wonder if they're ok. I too will have a talk with someone to make sure they know to put a post up and let my friends know if I encounter a problem. Thanks again and God Bless. Hugs, Marty

Cynthia said...

Laurie,
Great post and so thoughtful of you to get us thinking about this. I agree with Marty, you always start wondering if people are ok if they haven't posted in awhile. thank-you for sharing this, Cindy

Nina said...

Wow, Laurie, I would have never thought of that, but I'm glad you did. When my DH had cancer, I was part of a mail ring for melanoma patients and caregivers. I really felt like I "knew" those folks and it really hurt when one received bad news. Cyber friends really are friends.
Blessings,
Nina (Bettye)

Susan @ A Southern Daydreamer said...

Laurie
I think a very appropriate post. I think my family knows how to get to my post and blog... I have written instruction for passwords to sites and a list of people to notify in our safe (maybe morbid, but I feel better knowing I have taken care of things)

Susan

Mid-Atlantic Martha said...

Goodness! I can imagine your surprise about your blogger friend. How sad - luckily my daughter "follows" my blog. I will mention this to her.

ellen b. said...

Thanks Laurie for this post. Thankfully both my husband and my sister Lana G! at Above the Clouds knows how to get into my blog and email. None of us knows how many days we have on this earth. But I'm looking forward to that Bloggyland reunion in heaven where some of us meet each other face to face for the first time :0)

prairiedog said...

Hi Laurie,I didn't know nanette,I'm sorry you have lost a friend.Friends are friends,no matter where we meet.I think this is a great post and important.Just last Friday I told my future dil who I trust very much what all my passwords are and who to tell if something happens to me.My son hated the conversation but I told him that in the event something happens it will be alot less stressful if you know what I wanted.I think I will write it down just in case.Thanks Laurie
hugs,cyndi

The Kramer Angle said...

This is another thing to be added to the file of information my husband and I have "in the event of" something bad happening. Thank you for posting it!

prairiedog said...

Laurie,I was trying to find the article you saw,didn't find it but I found a website http://justincaseidie.com/ I don't know if I will use it but I'm going to look at it.I guess it might be good for someone.

KBeau said...

That's a very thoughtful and timely post, Laurie. We all need to think about this.

Ginger said...

Hi Laurie:
I have thought about this also. A couple of times I've visited blogs and they are no longer there, or they have gone private. I wish someone had given me a warning before they closed it. I wonder what happened to my blogger friends. I remember reading Nanettes blog a couple of times. So sorry to hear that she passed away. I will have to tell my daughter my password so she could update my blog if something happens. My hubby doesn't even know what a blog is, although I've told him I have one. He's not computer savy at all.
Thanks for the great post.
Ginger

Lou Cinda said...

This is definitely something we all need to think about. I just told my husband how to get in my blog "just in case". Thank you for bringing it to my attention. I am so sorry about your friend.

Lou Cinda

Happy To Be said...

Oh Laurie I read this today and Yahoo news...and I am so sad to hear about Nanettes and grief for her family...may God hold them in his embraces...and Laurie my DH don't even know how to turn this dand machine on and has never even read my blog..thanks for the heads up on this...hugs and smiles Gloria

Kathysue said...

Hi Laurie, I think you have passed on a very important message to all of us. It is true we might not have ever met in person but I think many of us would feel a loss if one of our blogging or chat room friends was no longer there and we had no idea why.I am going to address this with my hubby.You are such a dear, Laurie,Hugs Kathysue

Cindy J. said...

My dear sweet Laurie, I am so sorry about your friend. I need to remind my family how to contact everybody, it would be horrible for us not to know what has happened to each other. Thank-you for this wonderful post. Love, Cindy

Heidi Pocketbook said...

Laurie, I don't think this is morbid. Seriously, you do become attached to these people--when you think about it, it's almost like we bloggers are similar to modern-day pen-pals.

I guess I should do what I was required to do when I was working: write my passwords on a piece of paper and place it in a sealed envelope for the company to put in a safe (or dh to get out of the safe, in this case!) In the event that someone quit/died/or was fired, they could get into your voice mail or email and retrieve any business-related calls or emails before disabling the extension/email.

I'm a worry-wart anyway, so if I don't see someone posting for awhile I get concerned! Thanks for sharing this☺

Pat@Back Porch Musings said...

Thank you for this post Laurie.

My children know my e-mail passwords and my blog password. I should say something to them about posting, should something happen. They've sent e-mails to my friends when I've been ill or J has been ill.

I didn't know Nanette. I'm so sorry to hear of her passing.

This post is very appropriate.

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Connie said...

Laurie, I am sorry to learn about your friend. I think you bring up an an excellent point. I do remember having pen pals and it certainly didn't matter where they lived, they were friends.
My family are all so busy they don't read my blog. They live away and are at the soccer field, basketball court, lacrosse
games, etc. or college, and busy. I think I will
have a talk with the one nearest me about this very topic. Thanks for the tip !
You are so thoughtful and kind, Laurie.....

Deb said...

Laurie I never knew Nanette but I feel the loss. My heart goes out to her family. I have often thought about this very thing but have not mentioned it to my family. I will make sure that they know how to post the news if this ever happens to me. Thanks for putting this on my priority list, and thanks for sharing this story. Deb

Stacey said...

Laurie thank you for telling us all of this. I used to be in a chat ring with a bunch of teachers when I still worked. One of them was killed in a car accident. Even though I had never met her in person it was a loss like I wouldn't have expected. I will tell my family how to take care of my blog in case....I'm not sure they understand how much I care about everyone but maybe they do...I talk about y'all an awful lot!

Chari said...

Ohhh Girlfriend, it's just so hard to not cry after reading your post! I guess the thought of how dear you and all of my other blogger friends are to me...well, and if something were to ever happen to any of you or me...well, I would certainly want to know and would want you to know also!!! I will talk to Russell and make sure that he'll let my friends know...if something ever happened!

Laurie, you know that I don't get out and about very often...you and the girls ARE my very best friends!!! I talk to each of you on a daily basis...we've all grown so very close! I talk to all of you here...more often than I talk to my friends here where I live. I guess I'm just trying to say that I really appreciate you Sweetie...and care deeply for you! I'm so glad that you posted this, as sad as the thought may be...

Love ya honey!
Chari

Shelia said...

Oh, my goodness, Laurie. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I think that was God prodding you along to make this post! I had never thought of this and I'm so glad you've brought this up! I agree, Blogland has some very special folks and we're all so connected by the heart and soul! Thank you so much for doing this.
Bless you,
Shelia ;)

prof en retraite said...

Oh Laurie...I have thought about this, too, when a blogger I follow disappeared for a few weeks. You feel so close to your blogger friends, but really have no way to reach them. I am sorry you lost your blogger friend. Your post was inspired. We all needed to read your message. Hope you are having a good week!...hugs...Debbie

Mrs. B. Silly said...

Laurie, I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your blog friend. I did not know her but she must have been a very special person.
I know just what you mean. I get so worried when someone doesn't post on their blogs for a long time. It's a great idea to have a family member in charge of notifying our blog friends if something should happen to us. Hopefully we all have at least one blog friend that knows our home address as well so that if all else fails, they can send a letter of inquiry.

xashee's corner said...

HUGS!!!!!!!!! you brought tears to my eyes with this post but sure GLAD you did post this!! oh Laurie you are soo SWEET and i thank you!! i just NOW told my younger DS AND my DH where to find ALL my internet info! i am sorry you lost a friend and yes, i believe too that we can become VERY close to others online! Have a BEAUTIFUL evening!

Miss Laura Lu/RMS4291960 said...

You were definitely led to do this post for all of us Laurie! Thank you! Sometimes I get so busy taking care of others I forget that something could happen to me! I really need to write all this stuff down! Thank you Laurie! I haven't forgotten my responsiblity if you go before me! I've got to make sure your DH includes "Hymn of Promise" in your service!!! I'm very sorry to hear about your friend Nanette. My prayers go out to you and her family. God Bless ya! Lauralu :)

Melissa Miller said...

Laurie I promise you I have thought of this very thing before.
Great idea to let everyone think of a plan just in case.
I'm so sorry about Nanette's sudden passing.
I don't believe I ever did know of her or her blog.
That is sad and I will pray for her family.

Thank you so much for adding me and my husband to your prayer list.
You were one of the very first people to visit me on RMS and the very first to welcome me to Blogland.
I have never forgotten your kindness.
It means the world and I love ya girl.

Have a wonderful week.
~Melissa :)

Dixie said...

Laurie... I have thought about this... My daughter had a blog friend that disappeared.. a couple of months later, there was a post that the girl had commited suicide (she had lost her fiance to cancer 6-months before and was dealing with severe depression according to my daughter)... anyway... it really shook my daughter and she no longer blogs because of it...

The whole thing reminds me of "the last lecture"...

Guess I'll make sure somebody knows all my passwords!

blessings... Dixie

Diane @ Four Paws and Co said...

Thank you Laurie! This is a great reminder to have a talk with our families. I'm so sorry to hear Nannette passed.

I heard some news teasers about family or friends not having passwords when their family members have passed away & thought about my blogging buddies. I have it all written down. My hubby & our son know where it is. Hubby isn't computer savvy at all, so it falls on our son to take care of anything on the computer. Your post made me realize that he may not think about contacting my friends, so I'm have a chat with him & my DIL for just in case...

Hugs! Diane

Gollum said...

Laurie, this is one of the best posts I've ever read. I was crying by the time I got to the end. This really hit home. My family hears me talking about friends I've met on RMS and in blogland, but they wouldn't know how to reach out.
Thank you SO much for this thought provoking, beautifully written article.

xinex said...

Thank you very much for this very important reminder, Laurie. I am so sorry about Nanette. I will offer some prayers for her. I did not know her but I still feel sad.I believe John and my children will be able to get to my emails if something ever happened to me. I always use the same password...Christine

Bo said...

Hi Laurie...Thank you for such an important post. I think so many of us would be devastated to never hear from our blogging buddies & to never know what became of them. I have told my husband to be sure & let my blog list know if something happened to me. This was so sad to hear about Nanette...I did not know her but feel a loss through your post about her.
Again, thanks for sharing...
;-) Bo

Linda said...

Laurie,
Thanks for the thoughtful post. You are certainly right about being prepared and thinking of all the details. Life can catch us by surprise sometimes. Thank you. Linda

Denise said...

I have thought of this. My daughter and my granddaughter know what my passwords are and where I keep my online info.

Have a great day, Denise

Rita Kent at TesoroFino.Com said...

Hi Laurie~ I have never mentioned this to you before, but when I see your photo, I feel like I am looking at my mother-in-law who passed away. It's a good thing. Thanks for leaving a message about my daughter's post about "nonna". Well, after reading your post about contacting Blogland Friends, I can now have my talented writer & daughter contact you all and keep the blog going with sweet memories of growing up in an Italian Family. Thanks for this important post. Great day to you & thanks for being a friend! Rita

LillyB said...

Sister, this was such an emotional touching post! At least you have closure now and you know how it ended. You had the pleasure of knowing a kind and beautiful person and you were so awesome to share that with us. Sometimes we take so much for granted!! I somehow feel a loss even though I never met your sweet friend. Our loss is Heaven's gain!
I never thought of having someone update for me just in case.
God Bless you!
Love Lilly

Our really empty nest said...

WOW Laurie this post really touched alot of people including me. My family laughs when I talk about my blog friends and their lives, but now I will make sure that they know exactly what they need to do in such an event. Thank you so much for bringing this issue out in the open so we can all discuss it with our loved ones! Sue

Lynette said...

Laurie, I have thought about that before and, although my family wouldn't know how to post on my blog, my friend Kristen would.

I'm sorry about your friend.

Kristens Creations said...

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry to hear this!

I've thought about it too. Hubby set my blog up so he would know what to do. I hope nothing ever happens to any of us, but it is something to think about. Kristen

Smilingsal said...

Even though my family know I blog, I doubt that anyone would even think to notify by blog or email. I think I should set something up like Susan has done.

I have a blogging buddy who has not posted in forever, and I often wonder (and pray) for her.

Deanies space said...

Laurie, What a great post. It really gives us something to think about. I don't know what happen to one of our RMS FRIENDS. Her name is Ann Shelton, I just stopped getting email from her and have wondered what has become of her. Does anyone know? Blessings, Deanie

Linda/ "Mom..." said...

Dearest Laurie~ The news about Nanette is heartbreaking. She, her family and friends will be in my prayers tonight, as they were a few moments ago when I said a prayer after reading this. She was NOT "old", either. The angst over her husband's health problems may very well have greatly contributed to this. Am feeling so sad and awful right now, but am so glad you told us all, AND brought this topic to mind. I have three close friends who would know if something happened to me, & KNOWING that, actually DOES make me feel better. Thank you Laurie ~~~ your special love and caring for all is one of the "SPECIAL" things WE all love about you, my friend. Big, warm hugs today, Linda

ceekay said...

I think this is a great post. I have everything written down and my husband knows where it is.
So sorry of the loss of your blog friend.

ginny said...

Laurie, this was such an eye opener! I have never mentioned this to anyone, however, I will make sure my daughter or son will get a heads up. I feel very close to many of the bloggers and I always wonder when I don't see a recent post. Thanks for your posting. I do think that God places on our hearts the "right" thing to do, if only we would listen, which is what you did. Thank you for mentioning me in prayer. I truly appreciate it and humbly accept your prayers.
ginny

Treasia said...

My Trucker and I discussed this some time back. He knows the password and how to get onto my blog and let anyone know if anything bad has happened. He also knows my best friends in blog land and forums are posted into my cell phone and can call them.

But I do think it's something everyone should look into.

salmagundi said...

You are absolutely right on! No one in my family knows how to access my blog or my email. Guess I had better tell someone. Thanks for posting this today. Sally

Scooterblu's Whimsy~Rhonda said...

Hi Laurie, This was so sad, and I didn't even know Nanette, but we are all connected in some way aren't we, even if my mutual friends! I am so sorry for your loss and her dear family's. You brought up a great point and something that needs to be addressed. I have wondered where and worried about bloggers that haven't posted in a long time, especially those that are not in good health. Blogger friends are TRUE friends and the bonds can run very deep! Thanks for posting this! ~Big hugs, Rhonda

Scooterblu's Whimsy~Rhonda said...

meant...even if BY mutual friends...opps! :)

ann said...

Oh Laurie,I 'm so glad you touched on this.We all need to do this.I reemember Nanette' name but that's all.Bless her sweet heart.She and her family will be in my prayers.
Yes,I keep hoping and thinking seeing if there is something else i need to add to my will,living will,pets orders,dnr.and so on and on.I have thought about this part too.There's just so much to think of.We all heed to heed this warning and tell SOMEONE.........Melissa said she thought someone was looking for me?????Ann

Kim Chalfant said...

I think this post is very appropriate. Blogging friends are friends, period, end of story. Even though we may have never met, doesn't mean that we don't care about one another. Plus some of us are just plain nosy. It would drive me crazy not knowing what happened to a blogging friend. So I'm glad you brought this up. My husband hates that I have a password to log onto the computer, I guess I better write it down for him. The good thing about my blog is that it is an extended family blog, so if anything happened to me, someone in my family would post about it on our family blog (at least I hope they would). And I would hope that someone would miss me if I were gone. I know I would miss you. I love to read your blog & what is going on in your life, even if I don't comment very much and we don't know each other. Thanks for bringing this up.

bj said...

This is a very important post and I thank you for bringing it to our attention.
My daughter knows just what to do as far as my blog goes. She has posted for me several times when I was in and out of the hospital ...knows just how to do it all.
Everyone should have a back-up as none of us know what might happen in the future.
Thanks again!
xo bj

Dawnie said...

what a thoughtful and true post,,as hard as it is to read. I do think about this often because yes--folks do disapear and we dont know why.
No my family would not know to come to blogland and post...i will have to tell baldyman. its not something I like to think about even though I know we all need to.

to be honest,,I just really like to think no more people will leave this earth--God will just come and that will be it.

Judi said...

Laurie
Oh my I feel badly....I think I remember Nanette. I remember her name and the title sounds somewhat familiar. Thats so sad.
I have often thought about what youve written especially when a friend or family member of a blogger posts when there is a somoething going on a bloggers life and they can't blog themselves.

I know it would be awful to have someone stopped writing and you never know whatever happened to them...hmmm..thats a very good idea Laurie to give password and information to family so they can post if necessary.

I know I miss my friends here if they dont post for a couple of days and I hope they are alright.

Thank you for this. It is something we should all think about...and look after..its one of those things that goes along with blogging...and our friendship and circle of friends..*hugs*
Judi

JudyBug said...

This was a wonderful post! Some times we just don't think about things. My husband would know he needed to do something but I doubt he would know how to post. I need to show him just in case.

I love blogging and all the dear sweet wonderful people I've "met". I have one I worry about...Judith at Sweet Designs hasn't updated since Christmas and I know she had been ill.
JudyBug

BittersweetPunkin said...

Laurie...I'm so very sorry for the loss of your friend.

I am going to write all my passwords down...that way my family can have access to all the sites I frequent...good advice.

Kris said...

I'm so sorry to hear about Nanette. I didn't know her, but it sounds as if she was a special friend. Thanks for sharing this story and reminding each of us that we have formed new friendships and family online and it would be appreciative of all that we are able to keep everyone posted should something happen.

Kris

cedwards55 said...

Laurie, I'm so sad to learn of your loss. I'll certainly be praying for Nanette's family. Several months ago a few RMS friends and I exchanged phone numbers just for such an incident. I'm sure my sons wouldn't have a clue how to access any of my accounts nor would they know who to contact. Thanks for reminding us of how important the dear people in blogland are to each other. Sometimes I feel like ya'll know me better that my family!
Thanks and bless you, Carol

Tootsie said...

girl. Two months ago, I wrote down all the passwords to everything and left orders to my family that should something happen to me, to let the blog and my online friends know. I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I have thought of doing this post too. thank you for the reminder that we all love each other here...even if it is just through our posts and kind comments. I may not be commenting as much as I used to, but life here is consuming at times and I do read it all. You have touched my life and heart in so many ways as have my other blog land ladies and gents....and should something happen, I would want to support your family as you all would for mine.
thanks again for having the guts to say what many of us most likey have considered!

Lisa (aka) French said...

How true this is definitely something to think about;) Will put it on my to do list;) French

OCDesigner ~Athella said...

Laurie, I think about that all the time. When I don't see a new post or get an email message for awhile. I always wonder. Thanks for taking charge. You are "The Blogging Queen" in my circle. It made me laugh that your kids whisper when they think you are not looking...LOL I thought how respectful. Mine openly voice their annoyance of my internet involvement. ~Athella

Donna said...

Laurie, everything you have said is so true... My girls (who are computer literate) and my husband (who is not) all know I have a blog, but none have the password to get into it if need be... I think this is an excellent point you bring up.

I never had the pleasure of getting to know Nanette through blogging, but it sounds like she was a wonderful lady... I'm so sorry for her family's loss... How sweet of you to have her on your prayer list...

Donna @ An Enchanted Cottage

Chandy said...

Laurie, you are such a sweetheart for alerting us on such a worthy idea for our friends and families! I love blogging and all of you whom I've met through my tablescaping blog and I would be just as devastated if one day, I click on a name, and it's no longer valid. My dh setup a way where they can have access to my passwords and would be willing to let others know of my situation.

Thank you for this post, Nanette was trying to tell you thank you for your friendship...

Hugs, Chandy

Edie Marie's Attic said...

Hi Laurie,

Incredible post! I'm so sorry this happened with a blog friend of yours. I know there is one blog that is just sitting there with no new posts on it for ages. What happened to her?

I have shown my husband, DIL, oldest Son where my acct info and passwords are for just that reason. I have made some very close and wonderful friends through blogging! Isn't it true we CHOSE our friends because we love their personalities visus family that we must try to blend with? LOL

I am inspired to do a post on the subject, it was on my list of things to post about. But I'll do it sooner than later! THanks! If it's ok I will refer them to your post about it too. It brought me to tears reading about your sweet friend.

Big hugs! Sherry

MMMMM banana pudding! wonderful!
and all your Easter goodies are so adorable, I love them all!! very classy and vintage looking things.

Kathleen Ellis said...

Hi Laurie~
i am sorry to hear about Nanette, did they tell you if her husband is ok?
This was a very good point to remind us of...I never thought of it. I not only have my blog up but several other things that require passwords, etc.(and some of them automatically charge my credit card) I guess I'd better get them all written down, with instructions and assigned to one of my kids...my Prince would not even know where to begin!
I, too, have seen a blog notice like you referred to and wondered what ever happened.

Thank you for stopping by and saying hello...glad you enjoyed the green!
Have a fabulous day!
;-D

Happy To Be said...

GM Laurie..Thanks for coming by and WHAT I am suppose to wash my old RED Robe?? girl I just got it broke in...You know whats so funny Laurie I do have a closet with tons of robes and I alway go back to my Red one..even Len said one day "babe can't we afford to get you a new robe"? Wally got that robe for me Valentine day 10 years ago and it was the last thing he bought me before he died...I guess its my comfort robe...Told my kids to bury me in it...May you have a great day dear friend...hugs and smiles Gloria

Angie said...

I think it's good that you posted about this. So sorry to hear about your friend.

puddin07 said...

Laurie this was a very appropriate post, and I am sorry about your friend! Love Ya! Connie

Mama said...

Hi Laurie, thank you for this post, I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I will let my DH or someone know to be sure to let all my on-line friends know if something was to happen to me and hopefully after reading your post and that article everyone will do the same. such a thought provoking and worthwhile post. Kathy.

Susan (Between Naps on the Porch) said...

Hi Laurie,
That is soooo sad about Nanette! I'm glad you found out what happened...please tell her daughter she was very much a part of our little blog community and will be terribly missed!
Susan

Aimee said...

I had been thinking about that for the last couple of weeks. I am very thankful you have reminded us that there are real friends out there in cyber world that realy love us. I'm new to the blog world and I am in the process of setting up a blog(making it look nice). My daughter was the one who set it up for me so she knows all of my pass words.
Not a downer, but real life. I will be praying for your broken heart.
Blessings,
aimee

Roeshel said...

Laurie - thanks for posting this. I'm writing down the info tonight for my family. I've also always worried about blog buddies when they disappear. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.

~CC Catherine said...

Sweet Laurie, I think this post being dedicated to Nanette is very appropriate., and I do think we all need to set something up in the event anything happened to us, our friends in blogland could be notified. Thanks for taking the time to share this information, I know it was not easy. My prayers are with you...as well as for Nanette's family. I know you are rightfully saddened by this loss. Prayers & Hugs, ~CC Catherine

Miss Janice said...

Wow! I guess I will have to explain everything to my husband who is less of a computer tech than I am! This is something all of us bloggers should consider!

Lady Katherine said...

Laurie, this was a sad post and one all should know about! I so sorry for the loss of your friend.
I always go into a panic when I go to the Doc. for sometimes he puts me right in the hospital. I do have one friend that has a blog, I met her while traveling and working on the road. Her husband worked with us and she would come out to visit. It was great for I was the only woman with 12 men. We had so much fun state to state, store to store. Her name is Charlotte at The Robbins Nest, she comments as playsdolls, her blog address is http://robbinsnestdownunder.blogspot.com I am sure if I go missing, My family would tell her, not if I am in hospital but if well you know..... My daughter knows how to comment. I have a talk with both of them. Now you remember, you have this information now. Pleasures of Homes has my mail email address. OK Thanks for this, I go to Doc Tuesday! I not letting him put me in until I have my Tea Party or someone brings me a computer. lol

Life on Bonnie Lane said...

Wow, this really is something we all need to think about! I know that when I was in the hospital, I asked my sons to leave a comment on my blog and had told readers ahead of time that they should look there for updates, but many people end up in the hospital with no warning beforehand.

I also have over a hundred friends in Yahoo, so should give someone my passwords to IM too.

So sorry to hear that your blog friend had passed away. Had people known, they could have left messages for the family as a tribute to her.

Kady

tardevil said...

Laurie,
What a sweet post. I'm going to put this info. in our Estate book w/ our other vital info. I've wondered the same thing about one of my blogging friends. She posted a giveaway several weeks ago, and never posted the winner & it's been 2 weeks. All I can think about is that she was in a wreck or something. I'm sorry Nanette died. I don't remember her.

Maryjane - The Beehive Cottage said...

Hello Sweet Laurie,

Wow, what a post! I read a post at Sherry's ~ Edie Marie's Attic that sent me here! I am so soory for your friend. Blogging friend become very special, like a best friend or sister. I will let my daughters and hubby know my password first thing in the morning. Thank you for your upbeat and darling blog!!!

Hugs,
Maryjane

Kathleen said...

Just last week I noticed your note about her in your sidebar.
I didn't know N., I am new to blogland...:) But there was a poster at Holidays Forum on Garden Web, and she was a sweetie, and just disappeared.
I had her email, but she never answered..I still wonder what happened to her...
And yes, although we may have never met, we grieve for the loss of an on line friend...
So my sympathy to you, I know you feel her loss, and prayers to her family..

If I go missing, look for me under a pile of dishes in the clearance section of Home Goods or TJMaxx!
I don't think anyone here would notify my cyber friends...def not dh! He hasn't a clue..

Cote de Texas said...

This was a great article - I really need to take it to heart and show Ben how to let you know when I die. hehe - ok, this is morbid!!!!! but we really NEED to have this conversation with our family. It's soooo important. like making out a will!!!! thanks for a great article!

Suzanne said...

Laurie, Thank you for this posting. I myself stopped blogging for some time and just today heard the news. I like yourself wondered what happened to Nanette and her family. I thought her husband had another bad turn in his health and she would return when she could. I never thought it would be about her. I guess the Lord needed a sweet soul in his kingdom. She will be greatly missed. My Sympathy goes to her husband and family. Thank you Deb (Deb's Country Kisses) for writting to me about this post. Susan